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Can a virgin use a menstrual cup?

One of the questions we hear quite often from women all over the world is, “can a virgin use a menstrual cup?”

The short answer is, yes! You can start using a menstrual cup as soon as you get your period, no matter how old you are or whether or not you’ve had sex.

That said, we understand that many people who are virgins often have concerns about using a menstrual cup or other menstrual products designed to be worn inside the vagina. So don’t feel alone if you’re hesitant about using a menstrual cup as a virgin!

Let’s take a closer look at the concept of virginity and some of the questions we receive about using a menstrual cup as a virgin.

Understanding the concept of virginity

To start with, let’s make sure we have a shared understanding of what it means to be a virgin. By definition, a virgin is someone who has never had sexual intercourse. Conversations about virginity often refer to the hymen — a small piece of skin inside the opening of the vagina. The hymen is a very misunderstood part of the body. Many cultures view the hymen as an indication of virginity and believe that it remains “intact” until a person has sexual intercourse. 

Contrary to popular belief, however, the hymen doesn’t fully cover the vagina, and it doesn’t break or “pop.” The hymen naturally stretches and wears down over time, and may become stretched long before your first sexual experience. As you may know, many different activities can stretch the hymen, such as bike riding, yoga, dancing, or gymnastics. Some women are even born without hymens. So it’s important to not place too much significance on the state of your hymen. 

Will a menstrual cup take away your virginity? 

Your virginity is not based on a thin piece of skin, it is a simple fact about your life experience. You are a virgin if you have not had sexual intercourse, and that doesn’t change if you use a menstrual product such as a menstrual cup or a tampon. Using a menstrual cup doesn’t take away your virginity, and it does not say anything about your value as a person. 

For some people, and in many cultures, virginity is an important concept. Some people may feel like they can’t use the menstrual products they want because they are afraid it will take away their virginity, or that they will be judged for using these types of products. Women all over the world struggle with the question of whether or not it is acceptable in their religion or culture to use a menstrual cup. 

We deeply desire for each woman to have the freedom and the right to use a menstrual cup and experience the joy and ease that it can bring to her life. We need to be the voice that tells the world that the value of a woman is not determined by the state of her hymen, but by the existence of her soul.

Does using a menstrual cup break the hymen? 

As mentioned above, the hymen doesn’t actually break; it stretches. And yes, using a menstrual cup can stretch the hymen. But again, the hymen can be stretched by all sorts of activities, including something as simple as riding a bike. The cup won’t stretch your vaginal canal itself, but it may stretch your hymen. 

Are menstrual cups hard to use for a virgin? 

Menstrual cups take a little getting used to for anyone. So, don’t get discouraged if it all seems confusing! We’ve noticed two things that could cause someone to experience difficulty using a menstrual cup as a virgin: your own level of comfort, and your flexibility. 

Your level of comfort

Using a menstrual cup requires getting up close and personal with your body. You’ll need to assess your own mind and see if you feel comfortable with the thought of using an internal period product. If you are unfamiliar or uncomfortable with your vagina and have never used a tampon, getting comfortable with a cup may take a little more time and effort. But we believe it’s worth it! Using a menstrual cup helps many people gain a greater understanding of how their bodies work, which can be incredibly empowering.

Take it slow and give yourself some grace to figure it out. It often takes people a few cycles to really get the hang of it. We believe in you, and we wholeheartedly recommend a menstrual cup to everyone who menstruates because it truly is a life-changer! Imagine 12 hours of leak-free protection and no more worrying about soaking through pads at night! Not to mention swimming, backpacking, and all of your other favorite activities without fear of leaks or stains.

Your flexibility

The vaginal muscle of virgins or young girls can be more tense, which may make inserting a menstrual cup more difficult in the beginning. But don’t worry! Your body is stronger and more resilient than you could imagine. Your vaginal canal was created to expand when needed, and then return to its normal state, without stretching out. Otherwise, how could women ever give birth vaginally?

If you’ve never used a tampon or inserted anything into your vaginal canal, it could feel a bit uncomfortable at first. We advise you to start with a smaller cup. We have two small cups: our regular Pixie Cup small, and the Pixie Cup Slim small. What’s the difference? The Slim is a softer and more flexible material, which some people find more comfortable. However, some people prefer the more rigid material of our regular cup because they find that it pops open more easily. It’s really a matter of personal preference.

We also recommend that you start with the punch-down fold. There are different ways to fold your cup so that you can insert it, and your preferred method may change over time. But the punch-down fold is a great one to start with. Place your index finger on the top of the rim and press inwards to the base of the cup, forming a triangle. This gives you a small point of insertion. You may also want to use a little lubricant to help make things a little more comfortable. (We sell a really smooth Pixie Cup Lube that is AMAZING).

Click here for more detailed instructions on how to use your cup.

Do menstrual cups hurt? 

If properly inserted, a menstrual cup should not hurt. In fact, most menstrual cup users say that they can’t even feel their cup once it’s in, and they even forget they’re on their period! If your cup hurts or feels uncomfortable, there could be a few different reasons. Your cup may not be inserted properly, or you may need a different size. Try taking your cup out and reinserting it. Make sure you run a finger around the top to check for folds. If you continue to have trouble getting your cup in comfortably, try a different cup or a smaller size. We offer a 100% happiness guarantee, so if your cup doesn’t work for any reason, let us know! We’ll help you find one that does.

Can you practice using a menstrual cup when you’re not on your period?

Yes! You can absolutely practice using your cup before your period starts. In fact, we often recommend this to new cup users. If you practice using your cup when you’re not on your period, you’ll be much less nervous when it comes time to use it. If possible, practice inserting your cup when you’re not feeling rushed and you have some privacy. Because wearing a menstrual cup is not associated with toxic shock syndrome, you can leave it in for a while if you want to see how it feels, but don’t leave it in for longer than 12 hours. 

Removing your cup properly is also important. Your cup forms a seal inside the vagina, which you must break before you can remove it. Don’t simply grab the bottom and try to pull it out! Read our menstrual cup instructions for more info. Finally, make sure you always properly clean and sanitize your cup after use, even if you’re just practicing.

Can my cup get stuck up there? 

This is one of the most frequently asked questions we hear from new cup users. Don’t worry! There’s only so far your cup can go before it hits your cervix. It cannot migrate into your uterus or get lost inside your body. However, there may be times when your cup forms a tight seal up against your cervix, and it’s hard to remove. If that happens, don’t panic! It’s important to always remove your cup correctly by first breaking the seal. Pinching the base of the cup often does the trick, but if that doesn’t work, you can insert one finger alongside the cup and push the rim in. Read our blog on menstrual cup removal tips for more info.

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This content was originally written on June 4, 2019, and has been updated for freshness, accuracy, and comprehensiveness.

Amber English

13 thoughts on “Can a virgin use a menstrual cup?”

  1. Hey! I am a virgin and just got my cup in the mail. I followed the steps like sterilizing by boiling and reading the instructions completely to make sure.
    When it was time to put it in to try it out, it was a little uncomfortable (I did the triangle pinch). I had to tell myself to relax and ended up having to lay down a little. After a little while of trying to get it in, with just a couple seconds of uncomfortable pressure, it went in and I literally feel NOTHING. This is a great start and I really pray it works out for me because I know this would be a life changer!! Thanks!

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    • Hi Tia! Thank you so much for this encouraging comment! We are SO excited that you are trying a Pixie Cup and loving it so far! Once you get the knack of it, it will definitely be a game-changer. Please don’t hesitate to email us with any questions along your journey!

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    • I’m not using a pixie menstrual cup, but mine is stuck inside me and I can’t seem to get it out. I can get to the bottom of the cup but I can’t get a good enough grip to punch it in. Is my cup too big?

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      • Hi Jess, were you able to remove your cup? It sounds like you have a high cervix which is totally normal and having a larger cup is best for you so you can reach it. We suggest trying different positions that move your cervix and pelvic region. Squatting on the floor with knees high should help bring your cervix + cup into a reachable distance!

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  2. I am using a menstrual cup for the first time. And I was just practicing to insert it but it’s not getting inside me at all. Also am using xs cup size, still it’s not happening. Why?

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    • Hi Pakhi! We would definitely recommend our Pixie Cup Lube. This will help with inserting your menstrual cup. I’d also recommend trying different ways to fold your menstrual cup to make inserting easier! Here is a link to our most popular folds.

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  3. It’s been 5 months since I am using a menstrual cup. Recently i have visited a gynaecologist with my mom for some advice and she said that if i am a virgin i should stop using it what should i do now??

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    • Hi Asmara! Thank you for this comment! As you can see from the blog post, it’s definitely possible for a virgin to use a menstrual cup safely. There are cultural differences and religious preferences that could hold someone back from using a menstrual cup as a virgin but that’s completely up to the individual. As far as anatomy, menstrual cups are safe regardless of sexual status. I hope this helps you! If you’re still unsure and would like to discontinue use of your Pixie Cup, we have reusable organic cotton pads!

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  4. I am a teen virgin and I’ve only had my period for a year or so. I’ve tried to convince my mom to allow me to switch to cups instead of pads, but she’s super conservative, and has never tried even tampons. However, I hate the feeling of a wet pad, especially on a hot summer day, and also want to be environmentally conscious. I’ve told my mom this before but she told me to just deal with it because I’m not familiar to my own anatomy. But I would really like to try a cup out. What should I do to convince my mom?

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    • Hi Ava! We understand your mom’s concerns, but we also totally see where you’re coming from! At Pixie, we believe that all women should be empowered to know their own anatomy. Most all of us that work here are also fairly conservative (we’re all homeschoolers or homeschool moms! hah!) and we are committed to educating in a women-honoring way. Maybe try starting with watching some of our YouTube or Instagram videos with your mom. And if she has any specific questions, please have her reach out!

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